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    Post by Guest on Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:15 pm

    Hey guys,

    Something I had wrote a while back, I hope you enjoy it.


    I have just been talking on the phone to a friend of mine recently, he has the two kids, house, mrs, mortgage etc and bills to pay ( as we all do ). He is working in a call centre, for a crap wage, yet he went out a while ago and qualified as a plumber. He now has a trade behind him and can if he so chooses earn some decent cash. He keeps telling me he does not have time, does not have the cash etc etc etc. When all he needs is that little bit of encouragement. He can start working part time, earn some extra cash, get some experience, make contacts in the trade. he is not doing this, WHY?

    FEAR.... trepidation, anxiety, nerves, excitement, and fear of failure, he is safe where he is, busting his balls for 8 hours a day listening to complaints, and advising people on bills, etc etc.

    WHY do we all sit back, let the world pass us by, not take notice of how our partner looks so beautiful, when turned in a certain light, maybe in a way you had never seen them before. Why do we not see the most precious things in our children when in a certain mood, or because we had a bad day. Why, can we not just sit for 5 minutes, without the television on, and look at what we have in this life, and think, you know what.... maybe just maybe my life is not as bad as i think it is.

    Most of you know I have had some rough times recently, this has been a hard road, and one I am still working on, not to say I am depressed anymore, but I am now working on this new adventure, scared, anxious, nervous, excited, feeling like I wanna throw up one minute, and conquer the world the next. However. If i do not try, I shall never know.

    people always say, " who do you think you are to get above your station in life "

    "WHAT F****NG STATION"?

    Who are you to tell me, what I can or cannot achieve, who are you to tell me I can never be successful in what I choose to do, to whatever level I wish to do it. Because you have never done it, or felt you could not do it?.

    I have already lost a couple of friends on this journey, they saw me before as aggressive, assertive, and in your face. Now I have realised, I can be just as assertive, without aggression, I have realised it was there from all the shit I went through from different people, and it was an automatic defence mechanism to protect myself.

    Channel it, use it, harnass it, and move on,
    move past what life throws at you, take all it can throw, take what people say, listen and reply with " your opinions you are entitled to, however, fact it may not be " prove them wrong. prove to yourself you are worthy enough to move past into an arena which you are afraid of, the worst we can do is not get it right first time around. but if we believe in ourself, and our ability. we will succeed.

    One way or another we learn, be it by good or bad experiences, we take something from it. but what if we never have these experiences to start with? what if we plod on like mechanical drones, working, sleeping, eating, sh****ng, p*****g your life away. then what?

    Geoff made a nice comment on our last day of the class, ill leave it to you to figure out for yourself

    " Piss Excellence gentlemen, PISS EXCELLENCE "

    Everything you do, make it excellent, whether it's a smile to a passing stranger ( a friend you have not yet come to know ). or your writings, teachings, your job, or being a better person.

    Make that choice and LIVE, dont just exist. We deserve more, we will get more, but make it your choice.

    Choices are made, not given, we make the choice to do what we want, when we want and how we want, we are then presented with the opportunity to shine at it.

    Guys, basically in a nut shell, I guess what I am trying to say is, I have talked to so many of you on here, and you all have your own field of expertise, but it does not mean we cannot learn from each other, and if we can do it on here, we can pass it on out there in the real world.

    We are all instructors in human nature, why not isntruct ourselves, on being how we wish to be?

    If a man can think, dream, and hope, why cant he be the man he dreamt of being as a child.?

    Stay Safe And Be Happy
    Craig
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    Post by Mick Tully on Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:27 pm

    Great post mate
    remember 'its never too late to become the person you are supposed to be!'
    mick x
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    Post by Guest on Mon Jan 05, 2009 11:40 pm

    Cheers mate

    I hear you on that one.

    Craig
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    Post by moldeeside on Tue Jan 06, 2009 1:03 am

    cracking post craig, people fall too easily into their roles in life and forget that religious arguments aside, you are here once and once only and should have a bloody good go at enjoying yourself.
    I am in quite a good job which means I sometimes have to spend time with rather unpleasant people, but I make sure that once I`m home or at weekends I play with my daughter as much as I can, we go out, we learn together, feed horses, watch ducks, anything I can do to make her world wonderful.
    My dream in life is to help people and make people feel safe, I don`t know if there`s a particular job I could do so I try to carry out this role in my current job by being helpful and kind to others, and never assuming people want my problems adding to theirs.

    That`ll do until I win the lottery, then it`s liposuction, a wig, and bugger off to somewhere hot with a tribe of mucky lasses and everyone can go and whistle !!
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    Post by Guest on Tue Jan 06, 2009 1:24 am

    dont forget your hula skirt mate. and your mp3 player full of abba

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    Post by Al Peasland on Tue Jan 06, 2009 11:27 am

    Great post Craig

    You touched on Choice which is something I've written a very short article on

    http://www.completeselfprotection.com/articles.html

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    Post by Guest on Tue Jan 06, 2009 12:16 pm

    Cheers mate, glad you liked it.
    nice article mate and is absolutely the case. choose to have the life you want and feel the way you want. and live that life you always wanted.

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    Post by Matt on Tue Jan 06, 2009 2:49 pm

    Mick Tully wrote: 'its never too late to become the person you are supposed to be!'
    mick x

    That is simple but brilliant and encouraging!
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    Post by Mick Tully on Tue Jan 06, 2009 2:52 pm

    Great article Al
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