Hi Matt,
I will add to the already provided good advice from the guys on the forum.
Thanks to the national press 2009 appears to be a year of depression and worry. I work on an international level and know that there are without doubt real issues that need addressing; however some of the current mood is more perception than reality. Example, the news says “March 18 2009 - The unemployment rate rose to 6.5%” – why not say “we have 93.5% employment” (which is incidentally still very healthy). The constant bombardment from the news is on loss of jobs and its effect on families thus making us focus our attention on the problem – and what ever we focus on will dictate our mental state (and our mental state dictates the chemistry in our body which results in how we feel).
I will present an idea for you to ponder on about worrying based on my global engineering work. If I was on a power plant and on the 1st day we had a meeting about the power station maintenance schedule and we hit a problem with one component (let’s say it’s the boiler) - what we typically do (if we are a good team) is to spent say 30 minutes talking about the problem. Then we spend 7 hours on the solution and only then at the end of the day do we spend maybe another 30 minutes on the problem. More energy goes into possibility thinking and not problem thinking. Sometimes we actually say “right we have 15 minutes to talk about the problem and no longer before we move into solution thinking mode”. In other words we limit the worry time.
I try and apply this way of thinking daily. If I am worried about anything then I give myself an allowance of 10 to 20 minutes once or twice a day to worry about (as I am human and need to express myself and my concerns). Then I spend the rest of the day possibility thinking which allows me to get a better perspective on things. Possibility thinking will lead you developing a better tolerance for uncertainty. As time passes you will find that there is a sense of freedom when you embrace uncertainty which will reduce addictive worrying traits. Worrying cannot and does not change life's uncertainties. If worrying becomes a way of life then thoughts will intrude your mind all day long, distracting you from the present moment (and the present moment is the only reality).
This is only a habit and it can be changed by replacing it with a better habit. The ancient samurai were taught to accept that they would die on the days they went into to battle – this removed any uncertainty and with them accepting they were going to take their final dirt nap they were released from all inhibitions and worries of death resulting in them putting up an ever better fight.
Back to the boiler problem on the power station – one process we go through is that we question the accuracy or usefulness of the information we are given. It is also useful to apply this questioning strategy to your own beliefs/thoughts. It will help you get a better perspective if you learn to stop and ponder on the accuracy/reality of a given thought (as some thoughts have none or little validity). This can help you that realize your thoughts/worries may not be serving you – therefore it can help you to move on thus freeing up mental and emotional energy. This allows you focus in a more productive manner.
The reality is that the cards are stacked against us anyway - because no matter what we do, we aren't getting out of here alive! – So make the most of every day. The things that counts most in life is the minutes we spend learning and growing and helping other people (not dwelling on ourselves). Remember that there's a lot more to success than money. If you have love and good health, you're already successful.
Start every day by immediately writing down 2 things you’re grateful for and at the end every day write down 3 things that went fairly well (and keep a daily log of these notes all year round). This is a strategy I picked when reading one of the many books in my library (can’t remember which one!)- As Oprah Winfrey says, "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." Also hold your feet to the fire and look at everything you are doing in terms of expenditure and real working effort. Maybe for a short while we need to have 2 jobs.
I realize you said not to relate any of these strategies to martial arts, but I have to say that physical exercise (movement of the body) is a must especially when times are tough. If you smile for long enough the muscles at the back of your jaw are close to the motor cortex sections which release serotonin (which cools the brain and makes you feel good). If you laugh long and hard enough it will release endorphins which will make you feel better immediately – if you meditate and breath correctly you will release valium and that make so you feel relaxed- if you train hard you will create massive endorphins making you feel terrific – if you have anger and hostility you will release adrenalin and cortisol suppressing your immune system and making you vunerable to illness and weak mental states – what I am saying is that movement of the body is a must – it is in our DNA – and as you know good training is one of them most fantastic forms of instant gratification on this planet……………..
Here is some recommended reading:
• Maximum achievement by Brain Tracy
• Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Waltz
• It’s not about the bike by Lance Armstrong
• Don’t sweat the small stuff by Richard Carlson
• First into action by Duncan Falconer (this was the first book about the SBS)
• Unstoppable by Cynthia Kersey
• Man’s search for meaning by Victor Frankl
• Thick Face Black Heart by Chin-Nin-Chu
• Tough Times Don’t last Tough People Do by Dr. Robert Schuler
And any of Geoff Thompson's motivational books which you can see on his website:
www.geoffthompson.comHope this helps mate – see you at training……..
Tony. T