New Guy

Hi guys,

i have had a guy come down to my club....and to cut a long story short, he was held at knife point in his own flat and beaten up.
Its taken him months to have the confidence to come down to the club and he is very worried about anything physical and his interaction with people is poor which is very understandble.

I want him to keep coming as i feel it is building his confidece, just interacting with the guys in class.

im working with him on observation and awareness, any ideas on how to tackle the physical side of things.

matt

Dont do anything 'special' physically with him just yet.. tell him that he needs to get some confidence in the technqiues and when he feels ready .. (ask him to tell you).. get HIM to decsribe the actual physical events right from initial enounter with his attacker/s

get him to see if HE can see 'moment in time' when maybe he had some chances to evade, avoid or defend. Then when, and only when he has some understanding and confidence in his own abilities.. might take months.. get HIM to do the actions slowly and confidenty that mght have been the best ones for that particular scenario

Thanks Dave,

Apreciate your help

Asking him to re-enact or relive the event without you having experience of dealing with trauma victims is not advisable. See if you can coax him into to get some 'professional' help - psychotherapy etc. Amateur advice, and good intentions, on this type of serious event can do more harm than good.